June 27, 2010

Seven Days of Sunset ~ Day 2… The Woman I Want To Be…

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Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not ~Virginia Satir

This has been the Second Day of Sunset…

Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm,

but to add color to my sunset sky…


May 18, 2010

Edde’s Escapades

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I just thought I would share with my readers some of the fun, kooky, and random miniature adventures I have had these last few days despite the minute-by-minute battle with depression that has truly been the weekend’s underlying theme. No matter what, I know that I can always find something shiny to pull out of the muck. Even when I feel like the world is falling apart around me, somehow a little bit of light breaks through somewhere and I can find the humor, the beauty, or merely the strange irony in a tiny slice of life. All it takes looking at things differently, even if it means going a bit cross-eyed in the process..


Todd picked me up in the evening. We grabbed some Taco Bell (yes, we are occasionally junk food junkies when necessity demands it or the undeniable craving strikes…) and drove out to his grandparents house to pick up his ’64 Fairlane, which in my opinion, is the hottest classic car in existence (and which I eventually convinced him to let me drive a few miles).

Not to mention that he has installed an incredible sound system that puts my Hyundai’s pathetic little speakers to shame… oh… and the bench seats are quite conducive to cuddling. 🙂

Our music tastes usually lean towards either a mixture of jazz, classical, and musical theatre (Frank Sinatra, Michael Buble, Josh Groban, showtunes, etc) or various alternative rock bands, but this evening was different. Inspired by the capacities of the sound system, the general awesomeness of our vehicle, and the warm summer night, we put together a playlist of hip-hop, R&B, and reggaeton and cranked up the bass. Unable to keep myself from moving to the heavy, sensual beat, I let myself go… Well, as much as I could sitting down in a car! Bopping my head back and forth, moving my arms and shoulders to the beat, swaying my hips ever so slightly, I lost myself in the mood of the music and the wind whipping my hair across my face as Todd and I sped through the softly spice scented summer air.

And I discovered my new favorite dancing song… But dang it’s hard to do reggaeton moves sitting down…

Though driving the Fairlane is rewarding in and of itself, our ulterior motive in retrieving it from the grandparents’ house was to take it to the drive-in theatre to see Iron Man 2. The movie was thoroughly enjoyable, though in my opinion not as well-done nor memorable as the first (as is the case with sequels more often than not). However, what I took away from that night had nothing to do with the star-studded cast, the classic car, or the perfect night. As we waited for the movie to start, Todd and I walked hand in hand to the snack bar to find the restroom. Outside of the anachronistic, 70s style snack bar with its lovably pathetic attempt at a carnival atmosphere was a small sandbox with a swing set. Now, where there is a swing, there will be an Edde. I love the childlike thrill of swinging. To me, it will always be the closest I can get to flying. (Unless someone can convince me to go sky diving…the possibility of which I am still debating…). Smiling his “Of course you would” smile, Todd came up behind me and gave me a push. “Higher! Higher!” I demanded until I squealed “Stop!” as I realized if he pushed me any higher I would be doing an involuntary front flip over the bars followed by a most painful ostrich imitation.

“Hey Todd, when we have our own house someday, promise me we’ll have a swing set?”

“Of course, always.”


This morning I donned a pair of knee-high socks. Silly socks? Perhaps. Fan-freakin-tastic socks? Heck yes.

Todd and I went to Hot Topic. Yes, I shop at Hot Topic. Another quirky fact about Edde. Here are the fun things that I bought there (sorry the picture is a bit out of focus)…

We had a barbeque for my brother’s 18th birthday/high school graduation. My brother, Todd, and I ditched early and drove up to old downtown Placerville. I had a hankering to visit the Old Tyme Candy Store to add to my collection of weird and unique candy. This place has pretty much any candy you can think of. I didn’t buy much due to lack of funds, but here is my collection thus far and I hope to add to it significantly as time goes on…

(From left to right: E.frutti Gummi Pizza, Bubble Gum Pop Rocks, WackoWax Mr. Stache, Pixy Stix, Watermelon Sour Flush, Blue Razz Pop Rocks, WackWax Fangs, Captain Davy Jones Pez Dispenser, Pulparindo, Cotton Candy Pop Rocks, Jelly Belly Pet Tarantula, Tequila Flavor Hotlix with Worm, Gummy BooBoos Bandages, Lucky Lights, Salt N’ Vinegar Crickettes)

Intrigued, I also picked this up…


According to the label, this beverage:

“Helps relieve extreme mental overload.”

“Gets rid of all the garbage they’ve been they’ve been dumping in your mind.” (Yes, “they’ve been” is repeated on purpose…)

This drink is intended to be used “For a change of mind” and also states “We want you for life” and “This maybe be your only way out!”

Also, it reads…


And now, ladies and gentleman, for the ingredients…

FORMULA NO. 8: CARBONATED WATER, HIGH FRUCTOSE CORN SYRUP, CITRIC ACID, CAFFEINE, NATURAL & ARTIFICIAL FLAVORS, RED #40, HERBAL BLEND consisting of: American, Siberian and Korean Ginseng, African Capsicum, Buchu, Echinacea, Jalapeno Oil, Ginkgo Biloba, Ginger, Gotu Kola, Kola Nut, Brazilian Guarana, Skullcap (Mad Dog Weed), Clove, Damiana, Sage, Sodium Benzoate to preserve taste.

Now I don’t know about you, but to me this sounds more like a brain-blowing concoction than a brain-washing one. Unless by brain-washing you mean causing your brain matter to transform into goo and melt out your ears leaving the inside of your skull squeaky clean…

Mad Dog Weed eh?…

Maybe I’d better hold on to this one as a collector’s item…

After spending an hour goofing around in the candy store, we walked outside to find a street performer playing with fire. A wanna-be pyro myself,  I was entranced by his antics. I am definitely learning how to do this someday…

To my ecstatic delight, someone had left chalk lying on the sidewalk. Naturally, I helped myself.

That night Todd and I watched the movie musical Rent. I have always loved Rent. I had the opportunity to see it live in San Francisco in October of last year and it was one of the greatest experiences of my life. The movie is wonderful, but the actual stage musical is truly breathtaking. The message of this beautiful work of art is moving and meaningful no matter who you are or what your background is. When Roger held Mimi in his arms as she lay dying and sang the song “Your Eyes,” Todd and I both cried. It was a special moment of tender emotion that we were able to share together and that I will never forget.

People often say that ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder,’ and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves. ~Salma Hayek

March 7, 2010

Beauty from Pain

Posted in recovery tagged , , , , , , , at 11:03 pm by eddejae

The pain passes, but the beauty remains. ~Renoir

I first heard the following song today, and it had such an impact on me I had to share it. I feel like I could have written it myself, it hits so close to home.

The lights go out all around me
One last candle to keep out the night
And then the darkness surrounds me
I know I’m alive but I feel like I’ve died
And all that’s left is to accept that it’s over
My dreams ran like sand through the fists that I made
I try to keep warm but I just grow colder
I feel like I’m slipping away

After all this has passed, I still will remain
After I’ve cried my last, there’ll be beauty from pain
Though it won’t be today,
Someday I’ll hope again
And there’ll be beauty from pain
You will bring beauty from my pain

My whole world is the pain inside me
The best I can do is just get through the day
When life before is only a memory
I’ll wonder why God lets me walk through this place
And though I can’t understand why this happened
I know that I will when I look back someday
And see how you’ve brought beauty from ashes
And made me as gold purified through these flames

After all this has passed, I still will remain
After I’ve cried my last, there’ll be beauty from pain
Though it won’t be today,
Someday I’ll hope again
And there’ll be beauty from pain
You will bring beauty from my pain

Here I am, at the end of me
Trying to hold to what I can’t see
I forgot how to hope
This night’s been so long
I cling to Your promise
There will be a dawn

After all this has passed, I still will remain
After I’ve cried my last, there’ll be beauty from pain
Though it won’t be today,
Someday I’ll hope again
And there’ll be beauty from pain
You will bring beauty from my pain